The secret to being romantic without being cheesy is to flirt with her. If you don’t flirt with her, being romantic can make you look needy and pathetic. This unfortunately happens to a lot of guys. They think that just being romantic is enough, but it really isn’t. If you’re being romantic with your girl, she’ll know she means a lot to you, but if you forget to be flirty, she could lose interest. Remember, there are plenty of guys out there that can get girls without ever being romantic, so romance definitely isn’t a necessary part to attracting women. But romance can still definitely help you if you know what you’re doing. When you’re being romantic with your girl, never stop being playful and humorous with her. If you’re struggling to think of ways to be romantic with your girl, here are a few more tips to help you out.
Don’t Change Yourself To Be Romantic
If you want to take your girlfriend out for a romantic night on the town, don’t act like a mushy gushy wussy boy all of a sudden. Be yourself at all times and don’t feel the need to act like a character from a romantic comedy. Trying to be someone else will make you look cheesy and completely see through. You’ve heard it a million times before, but just be yourself.
Do Something Meaningful
Flowers and chocolate are great, but they often lack meaning and are really cliche. If instead you buy or make something for your girl with more meaning, she’ll find it much more romantic, and less cheesy. If she likes a certain food, cook it up for her and make her feel special. If she likes a certain song, learn how to play it with your favorite musical instrument. If you can sing too, you definitely earn bonus points. Taking notice of the things she likes and appreciates will make it easier for you to figure out what will push her buttons and make her melt.
Don’t Try To Get Anything Out Of It
The most important part about being romantic with a girl is to do it without any expectation from her. If you treat her like a princess, that doesn’t mean she has any obligation to give anything back. Now, it’s likely she will give back if you do things right, but just having an attitude where you expect something from her will work against you. If she gets the idea that you have an ulterior motive, she’ll clam up and will be far less impressed by your efforts to be romantic.
So be romantic with the sole intention of pleasing her, and making her happy. If this is a girl that makes you happy, there’s no reason why you shouldn’t try to make her happy too. If you are able to please her and make her happy, she’ll associate those positive feelings with you, which is nothing but good for you.
Do Something Simple
You don’t have to bend over backwards to be romantic. In fact, sometimes it’s the most simple things that get the best results. There is a certain level of intimacy you can only achieve by doing something simple. For example, just taking a walk with your girl and watching the sun set is one of the most romantic things you can do with her. Being romantic with a girl definitely does not require a horse and carriage ride around town and a fancy restaurant dinner. Sure she’ll appreciate that, but sometimes less is more.
Be Genuine About It
If you’re genuine with your girl, your romantic efforts will be much better received. Figure out what it is about your girlfriend that really makes you happy. Her smile, her laugh, the way she challenges you. Whatever it may be, let her know about it. And again, like all of the other things on this list, it’s important to do this in a way so you don’t come off as being needy and pathetic. Tell her the things you appreciate about her, but don’t make it seem like you’ll die if you don’t have her. You have to be able to compliment her, but if you overdo it, you’ll end up suffocating her. If you overdo it, she might not think you’re being genuine and are just saying things to please her. So be as genuine and honest when you tell her how much she means to you and she’ll certainly appreciate it.
Use Surprise To Your Advantage
Romance is usually expected on anniversaries and Valentine’s day, but the best times to be romantic are on days when it’s least expected. If you go out of your way to be romantic with your girl on any ordinary day, she’ll be pleasantly surprised and much more impressed by your efforts. So use surprise to your advantage when you can. When she least expects it, do any of the things on this list to surprise and romance her. She’ll definitely get a kick out of it and it’ll make you look good.